Friday Five: A Rose by Any Other Name
It took me quite a bit longer to gather my responses for this week than usual, mostly because I’ve been passed out in pain. But illness can’t stop the Friday Five for long! This week is about metaphors and connecting them to your everyday life. Here goes!
1. When you go to the beach, lake, or pool, are you more likely to lower yourself gradually into cold water or to take a determined plunge and get it over with?
I take my time whether it’s hot water or cold. I’m not a big fan of shocks to my system.
2. How is this like (or unlike) your approach to other tasks or ordeals?
It’s exactly like my approach to everything else in life. I’m careful, calculated, and I make sure I take my time and assess the outcomes (both positive and negative) before I take the final plunge into anything. Once all of the foreseeable outcomes are in mind, and the possible outcomes leading from those choices are evaluated, I make my decision only after I accept the possible results of my choices. I’ve “jumped in” without looking only a handful of times, and they never ended well.
3. When someone gives you flowers, are you more likely to let them turn completely brown and gross before throwing them out, or to discard them the moment they take on that sick-flower look?
I’m more in between in my flower maintenance. When someone gives me flowers I’m more likely to try and keep them alive for as long as possible–by trimming off dead blooms, giving them more light, removing suffocating foliage, etc.–than to just toss them the minute they look like they’re dying. If certain blooms are healthier than others then it’s not uncommon for me to remove those blooms and keep them healthy for as long as possible in a separate vase. If they’re roses, though, I’ll let them dry and either make potpourri or tea from them. (Because my cats love to eat roses, I don’t get to do this very often anymore)
4. How is this like (or unlike) your approach to other gifts, purchases, or relationships?
I treat any gift someone gives me with the same care. In my mind when someone takes the time to give me something it means something to both them and me, and I like to try and keep that as precious as possible. In terms of relationships, I treat them the same way as well. They’re delicate and need to be treated with affection and care just like flowers do. If you throw them (flowers or relationships) away at the first sign of them dying or wilting, then they mustn’t have meant that much to begin with. On the other hand, you can notice things starting to wilt and ignore them. Just like a relationship, without attention and care, flowers will die. The longer you leave them unattended, the faster they die (both relationships and flowers). Both have a point of no return as well. Once the flowers are brown and curled up, there’s no bringing them back to their former beauty. They’re dead, and done is done. Relationships, too, can be so far gone that no amount of emergency attention will help them. In terms of purchases I make for myself… I don’t think I pay nearly as much attention to those as things other people give me.

5. Think of your favorite movie (or a movie you really like, if you can’t think of a favorite). Some people say that the reasons you love your favorite movie are related to what you value in romantic relationships. How is this true or untrue in your case?
Usually I would say The Godfather, but I don’t think it applies here, so I’m going to go with my number 2 favorite film, Casablanca. I’d say Casablanca features most of what I value in romantic relationships: passion, deep connections, sacrifice, and even tragedy. I’m not so much a fan of the tragedy part, but loving someone enough to let them go for the greater good (or their own good), resonates powerfully with me. Rick was haunted by Ilsa’s memory, and given the chance to be together he opted to send her off with Victor. She loved two men for two different reasons, but ultimately had to make a choice. She put the greater good ahead of her own happiness, and so did Rick. It’s sad, but will forever connect Rick and Ilsa. I suppose it’s the idea of giving everything to someone else and knowing they’re doing the same that attracts me so much to Casablanca. It doesn’t always work out that way, but it certainly is something to aspire to.

